The past few days I've been answering questions like a maniac, trying to give advice I'm certainly not qualified to give. But as I scrolled through the never ending list of people begging for guidance, the desperation of these strangers struck a chord with me.
Most of them were completely lost. Some struggled with self-esteem issues. Some wanted to know if so and so liked them back. Or if they should ask so and so on a date. Some were in love with complete strangers and wanted to know if that was weird.
So, this post is for them.
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To the girl who doesn't believe in herself, you're going to be okay. Don't ever give up hope that things will get better. Because they will. You're amazing, and you're capable of so much more than you realize. Don't cheat this world out of your great ideas.Share them. Make them come alive. And never stop believing in the beauty of life--in the beauty of you.
To the girl who has never had a boyfriend and feels alone in that decision-- because all of her friends have one right now, you're making the right choice. For now, focus on the change you wish to be in the world- and make it happen. Focus on strengthening the relationship with your family. Focus on spending endless amounts of time with your best of friends. Take on new experiences with a smile, and pat yourself on the back for being so strong. You're admirable. You're remarkable. And when it's your time for that someone special-- you will feel it in your heart.
To the guy who is in love with his best friend, think about the options. Option 1: Tell her how you truly feel--even if it means sacrificing a special friendship.... Yes, it's risky. She might not even feel the same way. But at least you tried. At least you can say that you fought for the love in your heart and gave it your all. Option 2: Be content with just being "friends", in order to always keep her in your life-- even if it means giving up the possibility of ever being anything more. This way no one gets hurt, right? Well, that's tough. I chose option 2...but then I found out the hard way that it wasn't for me. Because I always was always going to want more. And I couldn't handle that. Bottom line-- it's up to you. And which ever decision you make, make it because it's the right one for you.
To the guy who can't seem to find any "nice" girls out there, you just haven't met the right one yet. Be patient. There are plenty of nice girls, and one day-- you're going to find her. And you're going to be so happy that you never settled for less than you deserve. I'm sure that you're an awesome guy. Remember that this is a big world, filled with TONS of people! And don't forget--college, work place, random coffee shop--totally romantic places to meet potential mates. In all seriousness, don't give up hope that she's out there.
To the girl who's home schooled and unhappy, life is greater than the walls of your home. One day, you'll be able to explore the world for yourself. Just remember that you're parents hold on tight because they love you. Sometimes they don't understand that you need to spread your wings. But when college comes around-- you'll meet so many new people, make best of friends, be involved in FUN activities, and for once, you will form your own routine. Hang on, and keep your appetite for life. It will get better!
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To my wonderful readers-- thank you for sticking with me. You guys are wonderful. I hope you know that I genuinely, truly believe in you. Just like you've believed in me.
This great life presents some challenges. And sometimes we don't know who to turn to or where to turn. But know that whenever you're feeling a little lost-- you'll always find your way back...always.
You are a very inspiring young woman. I look up to you and all of the wonderful things you have done are doing and will do in your life. You have been a great support for me through the death of a parent and that takes a genuine person. I could not ask for a better friend. I hope your blogs go far and i hope you achieve your goal to make people smile. You have made one person smile for sure and that is me. Your friend since second grade. Love you kelsie. You will achieve great things in your life.
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DeleteYou brought tears to my eyes. That means so much, coming from someone who means so much to me. I love you, so much. You are my sister. And I will ALWAYS be here for you. Whatever life throws your way-- I'll be here. Your dad loves you so much. You make him smile. And I'm so happy you're doing so well in school. You're brilliant. And one day- you're going to be an amazing business owner. It's my honor to put a smile on that beautiful face. Monkey bar pals forever. Love you Megan. You mean the world to me.