Something Borrowed

So, Something Borrowed is my all-time favorite movie. And there's a part in the movie when Dex's dad gives him advice on a sticky situation. He says something like- the problem with what we want is that it often goes against what's right. And you know, this couldn't be more true. 

Think about it. What does society say you're supposed to do? If you're a girl, and you're 25, then you should probably be finding a man and settling down. Hurry up and get married. Then, hurry up and have a child! Then, hurry up and have another one. Because your prime child bearing years are almost over. 

Our culture defines establishing a career, falling in love, getting married, having children, and raising those children as the correct order of business. And most of us follow this pattern. Because it's accepted...it's considered "right". 

Hey, I'm not saying that's wrong. Some people have those values. Some people want those things. But there are also some people who want to go on a different path. And those people often tango with society....being unfairly labeled. Whether it's "the one who never grew up" or "the guy who's too in love with his career" or "the girl who decided to chase her dreams instead of a man and is currently living in a different country, childless". Society deems going out of order deviance. Why? Because if we can't define something or categorize it, we freak out. 

Individualism is beautiful! And even though what Dex's dad said is kind of true, it shouldn't be that way.

 People give up what they want. Why? They're scared....because following a path that's not yet been traveled is risky. So, instead of going for it, they follow that pattern of life. Rolling with the motions and giving up what they want, because they needed to do what was right. 

I feel the opposite. I feel like what I want is what's right for me. It may not be right by society's standards. But it's right by my standards. And that's all that matters.

I will never give up my dreams just because my biological time clock is running out. 

There are so many people who sit down after a long day and wonder, where did my life go? My direction? They look in their children's eyes and think, "you're the best thing that's ever happened to me." But they look in the mirror and say, "When did I become this person...why did I stop dreaming?"

The beauty of it all is, it's never too late. I realize that I'm generalizing here. And I'm not saying that I don't eventually want to be a wife and mother. I'm just saying I won't follow society's timer. I can adopt at age 40. I can find my soul mate in the nursing home. Dramatic? Maybe. But how can you make a rule in a world full of people who are not the same? 

The point is don't let society's clock pressure you into settling. DON'T EVER SETTLE. Do what's right for YOU.

You don't have to be an extremist here, but you do have to follow your heart. I don't believe you should ever stop dreaming no matter how old you are. I think the day you stop dreaming is the day you stop grasping everything you can out of this great life. That's a sad day. Don't ever have that day.

Have you ever been to Burger King and ordered fries...and when you got those salty, delicious masterpieces...you find an onion ring? Like, seriously...an ONION RING!! Jack-pot! 

In this great life, I want to be that lone onion ring in the container of fries. What do you want?